I feel a need to share some strategies on gaining confidence and self esteem. Cause in the past, i shared a similar feeling of ‘failure’.
How do people deal with negative people who put others down regarding weight? The experience of say a female”friend” who unfairly puts you down or the man who tells you that you are over weight.
The comments will come from people who are hurt themselves and it’s a way to make themselves feel better about themselves. A happy, confident person would not say something like this to someone else. They would be ENCOURAGING not discouraging.
We all may struggle with Body Image at one time in our life or some may be still ongoing.During the previous years, I used to be in a BMI range of 27 (Max) to 16 (Min – which WAS still very low for me last time). I had the most popular and beautiful friends surrounding me but i felt ‘little’ whenever I am with them. I felt lousy and always received negative comments about my body being too big or even said mean things that im the odd one out from my ‘gang’.. It was devastating to listen to all the negative comments.Feeling the pressure, i decided to change. To lose weight as much as i can,i OVERWORK and STARVED myself.But for the wrong reasons.I want to ensure that nobody ‘criticize’ me. I didnt think about myself.I was thinking of what others think of me. At my lowest BMI, the negativities keep coming. I was too skinny, looking frail and all.
I was frustrated.Not to the people but to myself.It was a hitting point that i want to do this for myself and not for others.
From this experience, i decided to study more in Nutrition and Exercise. Wanting to being aware of the complex works of the body and making a Healthy Lifestyle as a Lifelong commitment.
Now i stand at a BMI of 20. Reflecting back, it was not actually hitting my current weight makes me happy or confident. Its the process of making my body MOVE and getting STRONGER plus all that ENDORPHIN hormones make me feel like i can take over the WORLD!Ok not exactly.But i felt if i can do a good workout and eat right, i can conquer anything.
Remember a Healthy Weight Lose starts in the HEAD and the Heart;
1) You can be what you want to be
Visualize your potentials and see yourself in a new ‘light’.For instance, I can workout in 3 times/wk.Visualize yourself breezing through the workouts and being strong every step of the way.
2) Always go Easy on yourself
Your undergoing a beautiful work in progress.
Remember you are the designer of your self-esteem, do not hand this over to other people.Surround yourself with people and things that make you feel good about yourself and your abilities. When you are around people and things that support you and make you feel good,you will be less likely to base your self-esteem on the way your body looks.
We all make mistakes, and mistakes can be used to help us learn. Do not criticize yourself for being human and making a mistake. The only last mistake in the one from which we never learn to grow.
3) Change Today!
Forget about the past and live in the present.As yesterday is over, Today is where you LIVE.Today you would try not to repeat past failures and not WAIT for tomorrow.If not now, when?Tomorrow again?:P
4) Respect your Body
I will treat my body with respect and kindness. I will feed it, keep it active, and listen to its needs. I will remember that my body is the vehicle that will carry me to my dreams!
I will choose to take care of myself and my body!Love it,Embrace it and Respect them!
Everyday is a new day and I am glad to be part of this journey with everybody.I am glad you are part of it too.